Building Relationships with your children
When your children become adults, marry and have their own children, you shouldn't think of it as the end of your relationship. Instead, think of it as the start of a new one, where you relate to them as one parent to another, rather than a parent to a child.
Advise, not dictate
Since your children have children of their own, you should treat them as fellow parents and trust them to lead their own lives. Encourage open communication with them and offer advice rather than insist on your way. Your adult children will appreciate such understanding, and will more likely come to you for advice as their faith in your wisdom strengthens.
Display a willingness to learn
Everyday is a learning experience, even for grandparents. Sometimes, your children may want to try something new, like parenting techniques, that you may not agree with. Before you object, be open and try it out. Your willingness to learn from them can help enrich and strengthen your relationship with them.
Show appreciation
Saying "thank you" to your children for their care and concern goes a long way. It shows your appreciation for them giving up valuable time and resources to take care of you. You can also reciprocate the gesture by giving them a helping hand in chores like babysitting. Not only will your children be thankful for the help, you will also get to spend more time with them and your grandchildren.
Respect differences in parenting methods
Your children may have a different approach to running their families, and you should recognise that. Respect the ways in which they discipline their children. They may find your ways outdated and ineffective for modern day kids. Give them credit as managers of their household and offer advice only when you see fit or asked.